I thought I was going to have a happy story to relate Monday morning. The exciting tale of a humble blogger who, having recently lost one of the best jobs he’s had, found something very similar and wound up being hired. A Cinderella ending if there ever was one.
But something went awry in the story’s unfolding. The main character, yours truly, somehow blew a second interview and lost the shot to another candidate.
I spent the whole weekend beating myself up for derailing the plot, despite my wife’s best efforts to separate my id from ego. It’s difficult to avoid such critical self-analysis because I know without doubt that I messed up. I had this job. It was mine to lose… and unfortunately I rendered that cliché into reality.
I have asked for feedback so that I can avoid another screw-up in the future. Like many of you out there in this rapidly-filling boat, I can’t afford to self-destruct on the next opportunity. Previous attempts to solicit such feedback have not been successful but I try not to let that discourage me. Sooner or later, some kind recruiter or hiring manager will surely take 5 minutes to dash off a note letting me know where I went off script.
If I step outside character I see a candidate who may have been a bit too excited about the job prospect. Someone whose eagerness may have been his undoing. Someone who may have tried too hard.
What an insane world we live in, isn’t it, where trying too hard can earn a penalty? Yet I’ve often heard that expression used in negative fashion. Young girls describe bullet-sweating suitors that way. So do teams burdened by a hotshot player who forgets he’s not alone on the field.
I think the latter is where I imploded. I have a gut feeling that there may have been too much “I” and “me” in my responses, while the manager was looking for team support and motivation. Sure, I have the necessary legacy, skills and inclination in that regard, but I suspect that in my anxious state I just failed to get it across. How ironic.
Maybe the story would have been better told in third person.